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Five variants on Swedish Midsummer and where to find them

It's Midsummer Eve on Friday, the Swedish celebration to top them all, eclipsing Valborg bonfires, crayfish parties, Easter, New Year's Eve and even, we'd argue, Christmas. But what are your options as a foreigner in Sweden?

Five variants on Swedish Midsummer and where to find them
A Midsummer celebration in Dalarna. Photo: Anna Hållams7Imagebank Sweden

Midsummer is about friends rather than family in Sweden, and for most Swedes, the standard procedure for Midsummer’s Eve, or Midsommarsafton, is to host or get invited to a private party. 

As the language teacher, publisher, and communicator on all things Swedish, Sofi Tegsveden Deveaux, pointed out in a Twitter thread, public celebrations are often considered a second-best option. 

We’d argue though that Midsummer is one of the rare occasions when Swedes throw the net a bit wider, inviting people they don’t know hugely well, and even allowing friends to bring hangers-on. As such, it’s a great opportunity for foreigners living in Sweden to broaden their friendship circle.  

For people in their teens and 20s, private Midsummer parties are traditionally wild and out-of-control, with too many shots of akvavit leading to raucous singing, manic dancing, and one-night stands under the midnight sun. Even for some middle-aged people, it can stay a bit like this (although perhaps with fewer of the casual hook-ups). But for most, it becomes more staid. 

Midsummer parties are normally hosted in the countryside, at summer houses in the Stockholm and Gothenburg archipelagos, or in popular places for holiday cottages like Dalarna, Småland, or rural Skåne. 

Some private parties will feature their own private Midsommarstång. Photo: Anna Hållams/imagebank.sweden.se

The upmarket private Midsummer Party 

If you get invited to a party hosted by monied Swedes, the celebrations can be quite grand, with the dinner – various preparations of herring, Västerbotten cheese tart, smoked salmon, gravadlax, perhaps some meat – laid out on long tables with white tablecloths in a tent or summer house conservatory, with 50 or more guests dressed in formal summer clothing. 

The more upmarket Midsummer parties are more likely to follow the traditional format of toasting and singing, so it pays to learn at least one traditional Swedish drinking song so you can take your turn. Sometimes, someone will have printed out a sheet of lyrics to the most popular songs.

Particularly smart people might have decorated and erected their own Midsommarstång in the garden, around which the guests will break the ice by dancing around pretending to be frogs while singing the Midsummer classic Små Grodorna, meaning little frogs”. 

It’s very common for the guests to stay the night, as unless you’re teetotal, by the end of the night, you’re unlikely to be in a state to drive home. 

If you’re lucky enough to be invited to a country mansion, your hosts might be able to provide a room, but more often guests will pitch tents in the garden.

The informal Midsummer party 

While many Swedes have summer houses, the majority are just cabins with at most two bedrooms and a small kitchen-living room. 

Your hosts may make an effort even here, with table cloths and a formally laid table. But in my experience, Midsummer celebrations can also be very laid back, with a guests each bringing a dish potluck-style, a barbecue, and the meal eaten with plates on people’s knees wherever they find a seat. 

Even these most informal parties will nod to tradition with a bottle of Akvavit, but the toasting and singing, if it happens, can be a bit halfhearted. You cannot guarantee that anyone will do the frog dance, or that there will be any approximation of a Midsommarstång. 

The little village celebration

According to Visit Sweden, only 51 percent of Swedes have access to a summer house and according to a study by Statistics Sweden, as few as one in three children do.

This means that for many people in Sweden, a public celebration is the only option. Almost every village in Sweden will hold one, with a Midsommerstång, stalls selling coffee and cinnamon buns, and tables laid out where families can bring their own food and so celebrate with neighbours. 

The event is usually held close to where the village has its dance floor or dansbana, and you might get performances from local folk musicians. Usually, families arrive early in the morning and take part in decorating and raising the Midsommerstång.

People celebrating at their summer house will sometimes pay a visit to the local village event, along with their guests, to enjoy the traditional music and dance around the stång before returning to their private celebrations for the main meal. 

Richard Orange’s children Eira and Finn helping decorate the Midsommarstång at Öveds Eke. Photo: Richard Orange

The big regional celebration 

In every part of Sweden, there’s a village, country house, or town that draws people who want a bigger celebration. I stumbled on one of these a few years ago, having failed to get invited to a private party. 

We ended up going to Övedskloster, an old country house just outside the town of Sjöbo, where Oveds Eke, a clearing by the mansion, has long drawn Midsummer revellers. 

The atmosphere was lively and welcoming, with families starting early making Midsummer crowns with flowers and twigs, and helping decorate the stång. There were stalls selling hot dogs, cinnamon buns, and coffee by the thermos and row after row of tables which filled up with families and friends. There was a small funfair.

The best bit, though, was the dancing. I can’t remember who was the headline star – a former Melodifestivalen contestant turned jobbing performer – but she had an insane amount of energy, and she soon had children and adults hopping around the midsommarstång, and then later dancing to her songs.

You’ll find similar events to this all over Sweden, and while they might lack some of the class of private parties, they’re a lot of fun. For anyone living down south tempted by Öveds Eke, here’s this year’s programme. The headliner this year is the EPA-dunk sensation Fröken Snusk.

Many of the bigger regional events have a focus on folk music, dress, and dancing, particularly those in Dalarna, the most traditional Swedish county. The event held at Styrsjöbo, a village by a small lake just outside of Leksand, is one of the many popular events. 

Outside Gothenburg, there are big celebrations with traditional clothing at Nääs slott, Tjolöholms slott, and Gunnebo Slott. 

Other notable events in Skåne are the celebrations held at Hovdala Slott near Hässleholm, and another event held at Baskemölla, a pretty fishing village near Simrishamn.

A traditional Midsummer celebration put on at one of the larger events in Dalarna. Photo: Anna Hållams/Imagebank Sweden

Events put on by public institutions in the big cities

Generally the public events put on by municipalities in Sweden’s big cities are best avoided, although Slottskogen in Gothenburg is supposed to host a good celebration, as does Sofiero, the castle in Helsingborg.

Anyone stuck in Stockholm over Midsummer should definitely consider attending the public event at Skansen, the outdoor museum, which can draw as many as 25,000 visitors if there’s good weather.

The museum seeks to recreate Midsummer celebrations of the past, with volunteer re-enactors dressed in 19th century costumes, but everyone is invited to take part. 

The celebrations start at 10am with the making of midsummer crowns, and the decorating and raising of the Midsommarstång, with an afternoon spent dancing around the pole, and then a series of folk music concerts and dances in the evening. 

The folk dancing and folk concerts continue on Midsummer’s Day and into the next day (Sunday June 25th), so even if you’ve been celebrating in the countryside, you can take part in some traditional dancing around the pole on your return to the capital. 

The Midsummer celebrations at the Skansen open air museum in 2022. Photo: Fredrik Sandberg/TT

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‘We all cheer each other on’: How we made friends in Sweden

Sweden is often rated as a difficult country to make friends in. We asked those who've been there, done that – or in other words, The Local's readers – how they met their closest friends in Sweden.

'We all cheer each other on': How we made friends in Sweden

“They are so supportive, caring and understanding,” said Erin Swoverland, a reader from the US, about her friends. “We all listen, lift each other up and cheer each other on. I feel so incredibly lucky to have such amazing women in my corner.”

She met most of them at a gym in Stockholm. 

“I attended a Friday training class for women and the rest is history. I will say I think it being a small, independent gym made all the difference as we actually spoke to each other. I haven’t had the same interactions at larger chains,” she said.

Erin was one of dozens of readers who responded to The Local’s question about how they found their friends in Sweden, sparked by a recent survey which showed that 13 percent of foreigners lack a close friend (double the number of Swedes who said the same thing).

A lot of readers alluded to the part-truth, part-stereotype that Swedes tend to compartmentalise their lives and prefer organised fun over spontaneous activities, and one of the classic strategies that always comes up in these discussions is to join some kind of club or society.

The benefit of “organised fun” is that Sweden has a vibrant föreningsliv (literally “association life”), with many people involved in for example their local football club, gaming hub, gardening society, trade union, hiking club, or even just being on the board of their housing association.

“As I always liked cycling, running, badminton, indoor climbing and a few other sports, I found groups on Meetup for such activities. This helped me meet like-minded people. Soon afterwards, some of us started to hang out together for beers or pizzas etc. Thanks to these people we started to invite other people to our gatherings. Finally today, I have a large network of very interesting and close friends (immigrants as well as Swedish friends). When I look back, I realise that it was much easier to get to know people in events having just six to eight people. If you go in a large group setting it is difficult to meet people as splinter groups start getting formed,” said a Pakistani reader.

“I have been in Sweden for over 15 years now. During this time our close friendship network has just increased. Like any friends, we fight and argue at times, but at the same time I know that my friends care about me. I feel at home in Sweden with this circle of friends.”

He wasn’t the only one who suggested joining a society (although one reader cautioned against “survivorship bias” and pointed out that not everyone manages to turn up at event and immediately make friends). Even if you don’t join a traditional club, readers recommended plenty of other networking opportunities, including sites or friendship apps such as Meetup, Bumble BFF, Panion and GoFrendly.

Nathan Lloyd, a Welshman in Malmö, recommends networking meetups, even if they’re not directly relevant to your own field, as well as Facebook groups. He met his best friend, Brian, via Grindr – not the only one we’ve heard of who made platonic friends on dating apps.

“He’s truly my best friend. Been friends for over six years,” he said. “We enjoy loppising together, going out in nature, birdwatching and art, a major thing we bonded over. He’s been there through highs and lows and helped me in emergency situations when I’ve needed someone.”

Nathan Lloyd, centre, with his friend, Brian, and partner, Tom, at the Konstrundan art weekend in southern Sweden. Photo: Private

Not being afraid of putting yourself out there and making the first move was another tip that came up in the survey, with many describing Swedes as warm friends – perhaps even surprisingly warm – once you break through the shell.

“First and foremost, don’t try too hard. Best friends are the organic ones that come in your life at the moments you don’t expect. Be open and give a shot to those who seem to be more open. Swedes who have been abroad frequently are exceptionally more pleasant to keep around,” said Hadi from Iran, who first moved to Sweden in 2010 and now lives in the south of the country.

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Peter, a reader who works at Lund University in southern Sweden, befriended his new neighbour after knocking on their door to ask if he could use their wifi until he managed to get his own.

“We have been very good friends ever since, even after I moved to another town. I find Swedes to be very friendly in general, but sometimes I need to make the first effort,” he said.

Robert Blomstrand, a born Swede who lived most of his life abroad, says he and his South African wife, Vanessa, met amazing friends in church and were surprised by their warmth and care.

“Through this we learned Swedish and had many wonderful Swedish experiences (sailing, meals, celebrations). Still very good friends,” he said.

Robert Blomstrand’s friends on a sailing trip to the Gothenburg archipelago. Photo: Private

Ioannis, based in southern Stockholm, said he met most of his friends through university or work and then made sure that the friendships were maintained after studies finished or work changed.

“Important first step was to accept that it is me, the one that has to make an effort. Then show interest in others, learn about who they are and how they are like. Share experiences with them, also offer help and support and ask for help and support. Independence and individualism can be an obstacle in creating social bonds. Make the effort, without expecting same returns. Give it time.”

“I believe that if you want a friend, you have to be a friend first,” said Jeremiah from the US. “My friends are people who were willing to invest in a building a relationship because they didn’t have them locally. We connected over the shared experience of being displaced and learning how to adult again. The connections grew because we had other shared interests, were willing to spend more time together, and were willing to help each other.”

“Focus on finding people who like doing things that you enjoy, like going to museums, movies, etc,” said a Stockholm-based reader, who made friends with his colleague after inviting him to a drag show at the Abba Museum.

“It’s so much easier to make friends during the things you like. Like any relationship, don’t try and rush it,” he added. “Just continue to reach out for times to hang out, and be OK with them not always saying yes the first time. We’re all busy. I also found it easier to make friends with folks, particularly Swedes, who weren’t from Stockholm (or whatever city you’re living in) as they generally have smaller networks/ open to make new friends in Stockholm.

Several readers expressed sadness that they hadn’t made any Swedish friends and that all their friends were fellow foreigners.

“I made friends through work (international company) and from my country of origin. I don’t have any Swedish friends even though I have been living in Stockholm for 15 years,” said a Colombian reader.

Some readers, however, argued that it isn’t necessarily strange, or a negative, that foreigners end up with foreigners, as you share similar experiences. Having a community with people you feel close to and have something in common with matters more than who they are.

“Close friendships are built because you share some experiences in life. I was an immigrant in Sweden, hence like all immigrants in Sweden I faced many issues time after time, for example issues related to visa or bank accounts,” said the Pakistani reader from the start of the article. “It is much easier to connect with people when you share similar issues. Don’t be afraid to talk about your experiences. This helps to bring us closer.”

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