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Why your Swedish colleagues love meetings (and you probably do, too)

If you've ever felt like you spend an increasing amount of your working life sitting in meeting after meeting (and then scheduling a follow-up meeting to discuss the meetings), you're not just imagining it.

Why your Swedish colleagues love meetings (and you probably do, too)
Online meetings are becoming increasingly common. Photo: Margareta Bloom Sandebäck/imagebank.sweden.se
There are differences between industries but in general meetings are becoming an ever more frequent part of working life. In a book published in 2019, Swedish political scientist Patrik Hall and sociologists Vesa Leppänen and Malin Åkerström set out to look into why that’s the case.

Their findings are particularly interesting for international workers, who are likely to see a sharp jump in the number of meeting invites if they move to Sweden from a society with more clearly defined hierarchical structures.

“A general finding is that meetings are becoming more common because of a growing demand for collaboration,” Hall tells The Local. 

“It’s very important for large organisations in particular to feel that they are part of one organisation and working towards the same mission, and Swedish local governments for example are very large. These collaboration and coordination projects require meetings, and in general there is a lot more collaboration within Swedish society today,” he explains.

Architecture of Swedish office spaces reflects this tendency for meetings, as is clear from the high number of meeting rooms, and especially those tailored to smaller meetings. Co-working spaces have also proved popular in the Nordic nation, and while some are effectively just desk rentals, others work to foster collaboration between startups and freelancers working there.

“In Sweden we seem to be very interested in organising things; maybe some other cultures just don’t bother, but I don’t think it only concerns Sweden,” notes the researcher. “The Dutch culture for example has strong religious conflicts in its history and negotiation has become very important. You see a lot of meetings when this is the case, so also in the voluntary sector where democracy is a priority.”

“As another example, within the EU when there are large funding projects, these demand collaboration – different organisations must collaborate with each other and the public sector must work with the voluntary sector and private firms. When you’re working together, you have to meet,” he says.

And Hall points out that collaboration has become more common in many regions due to globalisation. Air travel and video calls have made collaboration and the meetings that go along with it far easier.

The sociologist says that one of the main advantages of meetings is instilling a sense of unity and direction for people working on the same project or for the same company. But a poorly-run meeting may leave employees frustrated if they feel no decisions were reached, or felt their presence wasn’t necessary.

There’s something to be said, though, for the benefits of simply showing up, and the researchers found that being invited to a meeting makes people feel valued and important, whereas being left off an invitation can foster bad feeling among employees. 

“What we find, and US researchers have found the same, is that people like to complain about meetings but they actually enjoy attending them. People like to be in touch with other human beings, and a lot of work is quite solitary in many organisations today. So I’m not so sure that everyone does want fewer meetings,” he says.

With all that said, even Hall doesn’t get excited when he receives a calendar invite to a new meeting. When The Local asks if he enjoys being invited to meetings, his answer is instant.

“No! I think we’re all different, and I’m quite satisfied working in solitude. I do like smaller meetings with colleagues to discuss what we’re working on and practical things. I’m a researcher and for me maybe the most effective meetings are these small meetings, rather than large ones which feel more symbolic.”

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His advice for any internationals who are feeling overwhelmed with meetings is to try to address the problem in a very Swedish way: collectively.

“You should go to management as a group if you don’t have time to do the things you need to do because you’re in too many meetings. It’s best if you do this together with co-workers: ask what the point of the new meeting is, and don’t just murmur about it,” he suggests.

“This democratic culture is very important to us in Sweden and it’s a sensitive issue if just one person decides on things, but we should accept that sometimes it works well to have one person make decisions without asking.”

If that sounds too complicated, Hall also suggests pushing for shorter meetings. Maybe a two-to-three hour discussion could be done in 30 minutes if that’s the time you allocate it.

And another option is always to block out chunks of your calendar with other activities. When Hall interviewed managers at one local government organisation, every single person he spoke to admitted to doing this at some point.

“That’s one way of protecting themselves from the huge demands of digital society,” he says.

Article first published in 2019

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‘We all cheer each other on’: How we made friends in Sweden

Sweden is often rated as a difficult country to make friends in. We asked those who've been there, done that – or in other words, The Local's readers – how they met their closest friends in Sweden.

'We all cheer each other on': How we made friends in Sweden

“They are so supportive, caring and understanding,” said Erin Swoverland, a reader from the US, about her friends. “We all listen, lift each other up and cheer each other on. I feel so incredibly lucky to have such amazing women in my corner.”

She met most of them at a gym in Stockholm. 

“I attended a Friday training class for women and the rest is history. I will say I think it being a small, independent gym made all the difference as we actually spoke to each other. I haven’t had the same interactions at larger chains,” she said.

Erin was one of dozens of readers who responded to The Local’s question about how they found their friends in Sweden, sparked by a recent survey which showed that 13 percent of foreigners lack a close friend (double the number of Swedes who said the same thing).

A lot of readers alluded to the part-truth, part-stereotype that Swedes tend to compartmentalise their lives and prefer organised fun over spontaneous activities, and one of the classic strategies that always comes up in these discussions is to join some kind of club or society.

The benefit of “organised fun” is that Sweden has a vibrant föreningsliv (literally “association life”), with many people involved in for example their local football club, gaming hub, gardening society, trade union, hiking club, or even just being on the board of their housing association.

“As I always liked cycling, running, badminton, indoor climbing and a few other sports, I found groups on Meetup for such activities. This helped me meet like-minded people. Soon afterwards, some of us started to hang out together for beers or pizzas etc. Thanks to these people we started to invite other people to our gatherings. Finally today, I have a large network of very interesting and close friends (immigrants as well as Swedish friends). When I look back, I realise that it was much easier to get to know people in events having just six to eight people. If you go in a large group setting it is difficult to meet people as splinter groups start getting formed,” said a Pakistani reader.

“I have been in Sweden for over 15 years now. During this time our close friendship network has just increased. Like any friends, we fight and argue at times, but at the same time I know that my friends care about me. I feel at home in Sweden with this circle of friends.”

He wasn’t the only one who suggested joining a society (although one reader cautioned against “survivorship bias” and pointed out that not everyone manages to turn up at event and immediately make friends). Even if you don’t join a traditional club, readers recommended plenty of other networking opportunities, including sites or friendship apps such as Meetup, Bumble BFF, Panion and GoFrendly.

Nathan Lloyd, a Welshman in Malmö, recommends networking meetups, even if they’re not directly relevant to your own field, as well as Facebook groups. He met his best friend, Brian, via Grindr – not the only one we’ve heard of who made platonic friends on dating apps.

“He’s truly my best friend. Been friends for over six years,” he said. “We enjoy loppising together, going out in nature, birdwatching and art, a major thing we bonded over. He’s been there through highs and lows and helped me in emergency situations when I’ve needed someone.”

Nathan Lloyd, centre, with his friend, Brian, and partner, Tom, at the Konstrundan art weekend in southern Sweden. Photo: Private

Not being afraid of putting yourself out there and making the first move was another tip that came up in the survey, with many describing Swedes as warm friends – perhaps even surprisingly warm – once you break through the shell.

“First and foremost, don’t try too hard. Best friends are the organic ones that come in your life at the moments you don’t expect. Be open and give a shot to those who seem to be more open. Swedes who have been abroad frequently are exceptionally more pleasant to keep around,” said Hadi from Iran, who first moved to Sweden in 2010 and now lives in the south of the country.

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Peter, a reader who works at Lund University in southern Sweden, befriended his new neighbour after knocking on their door to ask if he could use their wifi until he managed to get his own.

“We have been very good friends ever since, even after I moved to another town. I find Swedes to be very friendly in general, but sometimes I need to make the first effort,” he said.

Robert Blomstrand, a born Swede who lived most of his life abroad, says he and his South African wife, Vanessa, met amazing friends in church and were surprised by their warmth and care.

“Through this we learned Swedish and had many wonderful Swedish experiences (sailing, meals, celebrations). Still very good friends,” he said.

Robert Blomstrand’s friends on a sailing trip to the Gothenburg archipelago. Photo: Private

Ioannis, based in southern Stockholm, said he met most of his friends through university or work and then made sure that the friendships were maintained after studies finished or work changed.

“Important first step was to accept that it is me, the one that has to make an effort. Then show interest in others, learn about who they are and how they are like. Share experiences with them, also offer help and support and ask for help and support. Independence and individualism can be an obstacle in creating social bonds. Make the effort, without expecting same returns. Give it time.”

“I believe that if you want a friend, you have to be a friend first,” said Jeremiah from the US. “My friends are people who were willing to invest in a building a relationship because they didn’t have them locally. We connected over the shared experience of being displaced and learning how to adult again. The connections grew because we had other shared interests, were willing to spend more time together, and were willing to help each other.”

“Focus on finding people who like doing things that you enjoy, like going to museums, movies, etc,” said a Stockholm-based reader, who made friends with his colleague after inviting him to a drag show at the Abba Museum.

“It’s so much easier to make friends during the things you like. Like any relationship, don’t try and rush it,” he added. “Just continue to reach out for times to hang out, and be OK with them not always saying yes the first time. We’re all busy. I also found it easier to make friends with folks, particularly Swedes, who weren’t from Stockholm (or whatever city you’re living in) as they generally have smaller networks/ open to make new friends in Stockholm.

Several readers expressed sadness that they hadn’t made any Swedish friends and that all their friends were fellow foreigners.

“I made friends through work (international company) and from my country of origin. I don’t have any Swedish friends even though I have been living in Stockholm for 15 years,” said a Colombian reader.

Some readers, however, argued that it isn’t necessarily strange, or a negative, that foreigners end up with foreigners, as you share similar experiences. Having a community with people you feel close to and have something in common with matters more than who they are.

“Close friendships are built because you share some experiences in life. I was an immigrant in Sweden, hence like all immigrants in Sweden I faced many issues time after time, for example issues related to visa or bank accounts,” said the Pakistani reader from the start of the article. “It is much easier to connect with people when you share similar issues. Don’t be afraid to talk about your experiences. This helps to bring us closer.”

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