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Spanish gay families ‘spurned by relatives’

The biggest study to date in Spain on families with same-sex parents has shown that, although the country is pioneered gay marriage, homophobic abuse is still common.

Spanish gay families 'spurned by relatives'
Families in Spain have reported homophobic abuse, violence and discrimination. Photo: PEDRO ARMESTRE / AFP

The conclusions of research carried out by the Autonomous University of Madrid into the experiences of same-sex couples and their children are largely positive but pockets of concern remain.

One striking statistic shows that 40.9% of families composed of a male or female single-sex partnership and at least one child under the age of 18 has been completely rejected by a close family member, such as an aunt or grandparent, reports on-line daily eldiario.es.

A further 32.4% feel "very or quite" discriminated against by relatives.

Most children of same-sex partnerships report that they do not feel discriminated against at school but 20.1% reported that they had been insulted or ostracised because of their family model. Insults included "your dad's a faggot and you're a faggot too".

Of the 71 families who took part in the study, three reported having suffered physical attacks at school.

At a day-to-day level, it was noted that most school textbooks and photographs do not highlight diversity and tend to represent families with heterosexual partnerships as the only type possible.

84.9% of those interviewed did not send their children to a religious school.

Difficulties in dealing with bureaucracy in the process of having children were also highlighted in the study, carried out by researcher Santiago Agustín.

Spain's Act on Assisted Human Reproduction Techniques does not cover men, leading to 84.2% of male same-sex couples reporting administrative difficulties with the surrogacy process. Some 50% of women reported bureaucratic hurdles when trying to have children through IVF.

12.7% of people interviewed reported that they had experienced discrimination from Spain's health care system.

Barriers to surrogacy are all the more significant for gay male couples due to problems they face when adopting.

"It's the only way left to be a parent. If we could have adopted, we would have adopted," said one Catalan man.

Only 5.3% of male couples in the study had been able to adopt children, with semen donation remaining the most common method of conception.

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German bishop says ‘why not?’ to blessing same-sex unions

A German bishop gave a nod to blessing same-sex couples on Friday, following a meeting with Pope Francis who has voiced his opposition to the practice.

German bishop says 'why not?' to blessing same-sex unions
Archive photo shows Bishop Franz-Josef Overbeck in Essen in 2019. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Roland Weihrauch

“If they (same-sex couples) ask for some blessings, why not?” said Bishop Franz-Josef Overbeck of Essen, in western Germany, responding to questions from journalists at the Vatican.

The bishop, one of the vice presidents of the European Union’s Commission of Bishops’ Conferences (Comece), had been received by the 84-year-old pope along with other members of the delegation.

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He was asked by reporters to comment on the more than a hundred Catholic churches across Germany who in May held wedding ceremonies open to “all those who love each other”, whether gay, lesbian or heterosexual.

Part of the “Love Wins” grassroots initiative launched by priests, deacons and volunteers, the organised blessing of same-sex couples came in direct defiance of the Vatican.

In March, the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF), the Vatican body that defends Church doctrine, issued a note reaffirming that homosexuality is “a sin” and confirming that same-sex couples cannot receive the sacrament of marriage.

“We are a pastoral church for all its members, also for homosexuals,” said Overbeck, 56.

“The Pope is a pastoral pope, he told us that we must do what serves the people, so we do it.”

‘Cannot bless sin’

Overbeck said he was concerned about the dwindling number of priests in theChurch today.

In Essen, he said, about 20-30 priests die each year, yet only about one or two are ordained, a problem that could be solved were the Church to allow married priests.

“There are likely some well educated men, even married, who could do this service,” he said.

The Church considers that marriage is exclusively the union of a man and woman.

Early in his papacy, Pope Francis took an unprecedented welcoming tone towards the LGBT community, making the now-famous “Who am I to judge?” remark about gay people trying to live a Christian life.

But although he has said he approves of civil unions for same-sex couples, he has not gone so far as to give his support to the Church blessing same-sex couples.

The CDF, which was set up in 1542 to hear heresy cases, said in its refusal in March that although same-sex unions might have “positive elements,” they could not be blessed within the church as the union is “not ordered to the creator’s plan.”

While God, it wrote, “never ceases to bless each of His pilgrim children in this world… he does not and cannot bless sin”.

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