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Want to speak German? How to overcome the challenges holding you back

Of all the challenges that can come with being an expat, learning the language can be the most frustrating – and we don’t just mean the difficulties of dealing with der, die and das.

Want to speak German? How to overcome the challenges holding you back
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You just know mastering German would open many doors in terms of friendships, work and much more. But the difficulty of juggling language learning with working life as an expat can make it feel impossible.

Learning on your own can be a struggle – but classes in large groups may not give you the personal attention or connection you need. With the language school Lingoda, learning is focused on small groups that create a supportive atmosphere for each and every student.

Here, we look at three of the main challenges language learners face and how the Lingoda Language Marathon could help. 

Boost your language skills and find new motivation with the Lingoda Language Marathon

Time scarcity: feel too busy to learn?

For many expats, time is the most precious of all commodities. Between meetings-that-could-have-been-emails, a hectic work schedule and all the various appointments that bureaucracies demand, the number of hours in the day seems fewer than for most people.

Mastering German (or whatever the local language is where you live) would make life immeasurably easier as you navigate work, friendships and the delights of bureaucracy. But if you’re feeling as if you lack the time, you’re far from alone.

As Kayla Hodges, an American expat in Stuttgart, explains: “It’s a real question of how to find the time and the motivation to keep going. The Ausländerbehörde (immigration office) wants to see I’m making enough money to support myself, so I spend more time working than learning the language.”

Many language schools attempt to cater for expats with evening classes, but sometimes they don’t fit in with your busy lifestyle – or energy levels! Many people would appreciate a more flexible solution.

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Finding the right level of pressure …

Pressure is also a major obstacle to language learning. It can come from yourself as well as others – either in the form of too much, or too little. We’re all very different in the way we work. But for many of us, feeling under pressure can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed or wanting to give up.

Some people find that there’s too little expectation to take part and engage in standard language school classes, while others find that being asked to decide between German’s three different genders, and four different cases when describing an object, is simply too much.

To make real progress, you need to learn in a way you can sustain beyond the short-term. That usually means you need to be held accountable in order to keep going. But in the beginning, just finding qualified teachers and the right class schedule for you can be an almighty struggle. 

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Overcoming a lack of urgency

Finally, there’s the question of motivation. Depending on where you’re based, it can be all too easy to feel like you can get by with only English. In a big city like Berlin, Zurich or Vienna, there’s a never-ending number of people wanting to practice their English skills. It can be difficult to find the confidence to try out your German with them.

Many companies also do as much as they can to smooth the way for their employees, and this approach can make you feel you don’t need to learn the language to get by on a day-to-day basis. But think of the long-term benefits if you could push on to the next level. 

Speaking a good level of German (or another new language) can help you feel integrated not isolated, making it easier to branch beyond your circle of expat friends. 

One simple solution for many pitfalls 

Any single one of these problems can slow or halt anyone in their quest to learn a language. Combined, they can put the average expat off learning for years. As Marwa Yousef, another Stuttgart expat from Lebanon, says: “With work stress and life pressure, if you don’t see fast progress, you’ll lose motivation.”

Lingoda’s online classes are designed to help learners address these common pitfalls by balancing freedom to set your own learning timetable with a framework that will keep you making progress. Whenever you’ve got time, you can access a class taught by a native speaker, says Serena De Maio, Lingoda’s Chief Growth Officer.

“Our classes are available 24/7 and you can also access them from anywhere,” she says. “People can rediscover the power of team work to improve themselves and support each other. You can even make yourself more employable during this time of crisis by focusing on your language skills.” 

With Lingoda, you can learn German, French, Spanish, English or Business English. In terms of handling pressure, De Maio believes Lingoda’s model of small intimate classes of up to four students, provides the perfect middle ground. She states that students in these groups, “stop focusing on their own individual difficulties” and focus on the group – something that acts as a powerful motivator. 

Students are also currently competing in the Lingoda Team Challenge, which offers prizes and a charity element through the Lingoda scholarship programme.

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“We want to get people closer to one another during this period,” says De Maio. “We want people who have often been remote working to feel re-energised by focusing on a shared purpose with friends or colleagues. We’ve found that the chance to positively impact people’s lives through the charity element helps make our students feel even more motivated.”

Want to improve your language skills? Click here to find out more about the Lingoda Language Marathon and how it could help you overcome the challenges holding you back

 
 
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Why so many couples in Germany go to Denmark to get married

Couples with at least one non-German partner who try to get married in Germany often run into near-impossible hurdles. The solution that many international couples resort to is crossing a border for a day or two and returning as newlyweds.

Why so many couples in Germany go to Denmark to get married

Germany is not particularly well known as a wedding destination, but its neighbour Denmark is.

Denmark has been an especially popular wedding destination for people coming from Germany since the 1960s. 

To be clear it’s not that couples in Germany are swapping their wedding carriages for tandem bicycles, or that they want Smørrebrød at their reception dinners. 

Actually what attracts couples to Denmark for marriage is not what the country has, but what it doesn’t have – that being outrageous bureaucratic hurdles.

The Local spoke with one newly wed husband and one engaged bachelor who both opted for Danish weddings. They explained why they avoided getting married in Germany, and how seamless the process can be in Denmark.

Impossible documents and language barriers

For many foreigners, and even some native born citizens, Germany’s paperwork and German language requirements for the marriage process are simply too much.

Sam Care, 32, who lives in Berlin told The Local that he didn’t spend too much time investigating the marriage process in Germany. Rather he and his newly wed wife were recommended to marry in Denmark from the beginning.

“Given our experience with German bureaucracy, it didn’t take much to convince us,” Sam admitted. But he did look into the process enough to realise the list of required documents is substantially longer in Germany than it is in Denmark.

“I’m sure lots of people don’t arrive in Germany with their birth certificates and proof of civil status. At least we hadn’t, so the German process had this added hassle of trying to get documents from my wife’s home country.”

newlyweds in Denmark

Sam Care and his newlywed bride as seen in Copenhagen shortly after getting married. Photo provided by Sam Care.

While requesting documents from your home country (and then getting them translated and apostilled) is difficult enough if you are coming from the US or the UK, for example, it can be nearly impossible for people coming from countries like Kenya or South Africa, or countries where regular processes may be disrupted by conflict, like in Ukraine or Russia.

William Bryan, 28, who is scheduled to marry his fiancée in Denmark in a few months said that as a German-American he had made an honest effort to start the German process.

“It was so quickly, overwhelmingly bureaucratic in classic German fashion,” Will told The Local. 

He added that an official translator was required at the marriage if either of the partners couldn’t prove sufficient German language skills – which would have been an issue for his fiancée – and they didn’t offer options beside German language for the ceremony.

Ultimately, Will says the extra paperwork and the language barrier, and the fact that both of those issues could be avoided with a quick trip to Denmark, made it an easy choice.

‘You could be married next week in Denmark’

Beside the language and paperwork barriers, another issue for those trying to marry in Germany can be the timing. Scheduling a marriage in Germany can take months, especially in bigger cities where local venues are often fully booked well in advance.

Of course marriage is not something to rush into, but there are certain situations where couples may need to marry sooner than later.

Will noted that after he and his fiancée submitted their documents to Danish authorities, they received approval on their application within five business days.

“You could probably apply today and get married next week,” Will said.

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A bride and groom celebrate their union with a toast. Photo by Pexels via Pixabay

Sam also noted how easy and quick the Danish process was: “You just go to the Danish website, upload a few documents, get approved, choose a venue, done!”

He said that they did have to register a day ahead of the marriage at the town hall: “When we got to the town hall there were a bunch of couples from around the world. It was actually sweet to see the other couples in a similar situation to ours, all in need of a feasible way to secure their lives together.”

Germany gets its papers either way

There is one catch. When German residents are married abroad, they need to have their foreign marriage officially recognised in Germany before that marriage will count in terms of tax and citizenship / residency effects.

Sam, who was married by the end of 2023, says he is still in the process of having his marriage recognised by the German authorities, which would also be required to arrange a name change in the country.

READ ALSO: How to have your marriage abroad recognised in Germany

“In my experience it’s not so straightforward,” Sam said. “Depending on your circumstance, you have to either go to the Standesamt or Bürgeramt and it’s not entirely obvious which one until you contact one and are told to go through the other – and then over to the Finanzamt.”

Typically, married couples can start this process by presenting the marriage certificate at their local registry office. But if you’re moving to Germany for the first time, you can try brining the certificate with you to your first Anmeldung appointment.

But here also, coming from Denmark has an advantage. Danish weddings come with marriage certificates in five languages (Danish, English, German, Spanish, and French) at no extra cost. 

So at least you won’t have to translate your marriage certificate when you turn it in to the relevant authorities in Germany.

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