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Young Spaniards most emotionally attached to parents in EU

A new study has revealed that young Spanish people have a closer relationship with their parents than all their EU counterparts, but it’s a double-edged sword according to researchers.

Young Spaniards most emotionally attached to parents in EU
Young Spaniards are emotionally and financially attached to their parents, and more often than not both needs are interrelated. Photo: RDNE Stock Project/Pexels

More than half of 18 to 34 year olds in Spain have a very close relationship with their parents, according to a new study by the Social Observatory of La Caixa Foundation. 

Specifically, 56.6 percent of Spaniards responded that they are “very close” to their parents, compared to the EU average of 37.9 percent.

Only the Portuguese come close in terms of this emotional proximity between parents and children.

The intensity of intergenerational relationships in Spain also stands out. While 49.2 percent of the EU’s young population interacts with their parents at least once a day, in Spain 70.6 percent of young adults make sure they speak to or see their folks on a daily basis.

“This may be due to the late age of emancipation of young Spaniards. While in the EU as a whole young people become independent  on average at 26.4 years of age, in Spain they do so at 30.3 years of age,” the report states.

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However, the report’s conclusions show that even among young Spaniards who’ve left the nest at a more normal age by global standards, relationships with their families remain close-knit.

The findings are perhaps less of a surprise for foreigners in Spain who see how Spanish parents tend to have a propensity to ‘spoil’ or help out their kids.

This can go from packing their adult children lunch in a Tupperware every day before they head to work, to paying for their studies so they don’t have to take out a loan or helping them get on the property ladder by buying them a flat.

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Can young Spaniards be blamed for embracing such a degree of pampering, keeping in mind the chronically high level of youth unemployment, their low wages and rising living costs? 

Researcher and co-author of the study Joan Verd has warned that this generosity from parents to offspring “replaces the resources that the State does not offer”.

“In other European countries the State makes much more determined policies to support youth, in southern Europe they do not exist or are much smaller. 

“The family replaces the State”, Verd concluded.

In his eyes, this tight family-orientated trend causes greater dependency among young Spaniards, which ends up meaning they cannot count on other sources of material and emotional support.

Ultimately, they’re more vulnerable compared to their EU counterparts and if they have “a poor personal relationship with parents or a disadvantaged family background” they tend to have no safety network, the researchers found.

Family is clearly ‘everything’ to the average Spaniard and close relationships with loved ones have helped millions in this country to get you through difficult times, to the point where it’s part of the national identity.

However, as the study suggests, many young people are almost ‘forced’ to get on well with their parents in order to ensure they get a leg up financially as they have “no secondary network” to call on. 

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Why do people from Madrid have a reputation for being arrogant?

One of the most common stereotypes in Spain is that people from the capital think they’re better than everybody else. 

Why do people from Madrid have a reputation for being arrogant?

The clichés about Spaniards which most foreigners are familiar with are that they’re lazy, party-loving and loud, but within Spain there are plenty of regional stereotypes that outsiders haven’t heard of.

One of them is that people from Madrid – madrileños as they are called – are arrogant.

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The truth is that people who live in capitals or major cities – whether it’s Paris, London or New York – often get accused of being full of themselves by those from smaller cities and towns.

There’s more happening, their cities are in the news more often, big city dwellers are often wealthier, their buildings are more majestic, their populations more diverse, and so on, all contributing to a perceived sense by some that people in the capital look down on others.

The Madrid overconfidence is not coupled with unfriendliness, however. Madrid is generally regarded as a welcoming city and its people are tolerant. 

But it’s true that many madrileños do walk with a certain spring in their step, a sense that their city is the best, but can they really be considered to be arrogant?

There is in fact a historical explanation that explains how the stereotype started.

The Spanish word chulo has several meanings (‘pimp’ and ‘cool’ to name a couple) but the most common among them is the adjective for ‘cocky’ or ‘brazen’.

In Spain’s Royal Academy of Language there’s another meaning for chulo: “a working-class person from Madrid who stands out for their attractive attire and manner of carrying themselves”.

Chulos were also known for being young rogues who often committed petty crimes and managed to survive through deception, wit and charm – artful dodgers if you will.

With a strut and sass of a Spanish Peaky Blinder, Madrid’s chulos would walk around 18th century Madrid wearing waistcoats with a carnation in the lapel, dark tight trousers, black and white checked caps, boots and a white handkerchief around their necks.

The female garbs of the chula were just as eye-catching: carnations pinned to their hair under a headscarf, a tight skirt with ruffles at the bottom and a what’s known as a Manila shawl over their shoulders.

This in fact describes the attire worn by madrileños for their local fiestas in the present day, more commonly known as chulapos and chulapas nowadays.

The fact that the clothing of the cocky wheeler dealers of Madrid 300 years ago are now worn with pride by madrileños, and that the word chulo itself means conceited in Spanish – goes some way to explaining the enduring stereotype.

Madrid has more ‘old money’ on average than anywhere else in Spain, and that is best reflected during winter by well-to-do ladies wearing huge fur coats. Photo: Gabriel Buoys/AFP

There’s definitely plenty of pride and self-assurance for being from Madrid, especially among gatos (cats, more on that below), but not enough to call it arrogance.

READ MORE: Why are people from Madrid called gatos (cats)?

However, madrileños who go on holiday to other parts of Spain have built a bit of a reputation for being disrespectful and annoying.

People from the green northwestern region refer to tourists typically from Madrid as fodechinchos, originally meaning fish thieves but now used to describe these crass holidaymakers who don’t understand that things are done differently there.

People from the capital have built an equally poor reputation for arriving in droves in Andalusia and the Valencia region during the summer months and criticising everything from work practices to the beaches and the food.

Ask locals from these coastal regions what they think of the madrileños that ‘invade’ their towns and villages during the summer months and they will no doubt tell you they find them arrogant.

Then again, being a tourist in Spain currently, regardless of where you hail from, is likely to cause some grumbling among locals given the mass tourism crisis the country is going through.

Madrileños do operate at a faster pace than most Spaniards, there is more ‘old money’ and posh people to go with it than anywhere else in Spain (nicknamed pijos or Cayetanos) and the city is objectively home to the best football team in history (Real Madrid that is, sorry Atlético fans). 

There are plenty of reasons for people from Madrid to have a slight whiff of hubris about them, but it most certainly is not everyone. 

This city of 3.4 million inhabitants is far too diverse to carry the label of arrogance. Cheek and cockiness perhaps, but not insolence.  

In their book “Madrid: Midnight City”, British writers Jules Stewart and Helen Crisp paid heed to madrileños as being “very local people pretending to be cosmopolitan”.

“Behind a façade of hard workers who are argumentative and serious, lies a compassionate soul who still believes in the full enjoyment of life,” Stewart told Spanish daily El Confidencial about the average Madrid resident.

That’s the feeling many foreigners get when they move to the Spanish capital, it’s an exciting and buzzing city which takes you in with open arms, a place that feels more like a town than the more gritty metropoles of Europe and further afield.

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