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GERMAN HABITS

5 ways living in Germany changes you as a person

Getting used to the German way of life can be challenging. But, once you've been here for long enough, you'll not only find yourself adapting, but changing too. Here are five ways life in the country changes you.

Hikers stand at the Höchsten vantage point in Baden-Württemberg and look out over the Alps.
Hikers stand at the Höchsten vantage point in Baden-Württemberg and look out over the Alps. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Thomas Warnack

You gain a thicker skin

It would be unfair to say that Germans are rude. But Germans do tend to have a more direct communication style than say, people from the UK or from the US, which can sometimes come across as blunt or abrupt to non-natives.

This directness can also extend to certain behavioural traits, such as not smiling as frequently as people in other cultures or engaging in small talk.

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At first, this communication style can be a shock and even be quite hurtful, but, over time, you learn not to take things so personally and that, beneath the slightly tough exterior, even the most direct of Germans are generally nice people who mean well.

Eventually, you might also find yourself cutting to the chase more often in conversation and seeing small talk as slightly superficial.

You become more patient

From getting an appointment for a Wohnungsanmeldung (apartment registration) to trying to stream a video in a rural bed and breakfast, there are many things in Germany you have to wait for.

One of the first things you’ll realise when you move to Germany is that the idea of German efficiency is a myth in many ways –  such as the lack of digitalisation and the unreliable train service – the country is slow to change.

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At first, you’ll probably feel a lot of frustration and irritation, but you can’t keep that up forever. Eventually, you just have to learn to be patient, which isn’t such a bad thing.

You pay more attention to detail

There’s no doubt that living in Germany will sharpen your sense of precision.

For one thing, the language is extremely precise: there is a word to describe pretty much everything.

But it’s not just words that are more precise in Germany. Certain life habits require a keen eye on the details, too.

A waitress holds a bill for drinks and food in a restaurant in Stuttgart.

A waitress holds a bill for drinks and food in a restaurant in Stuttgart. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Bernd Weißbrod

Take paying a restaurant bill, for instance. When eating out in a group in Germany, it’s normal for each person to pay only for exactly what they ate, down to the last cent.

As The Local journalist Rachel Loxton said in this week’s Germany in Focus podcast: “Now, I feel it’s normal to pay a bill getrennt (separately) rather than together (zusammen) and I feel like my Scottish friends would think I’m stingy for doing that because I even thought that when I first arrived here.”

You appreciate nature more

Germany is a country rich in natural beauty and Germans generally have a strong appreciation for nature and the environment.

Outdoor activities – such as hiking, cycling, and camping – are an integral part of German culture. Gardening and growing your own fruits and vegetables is also a popular pastime, explaining the popularity of Kleingärten (allotments).

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The German government also places a high priority on environmental protection and conservation, and Germans are generally very conscious of their impact on the environment: recycling is taken very seriously and many Germans travel with public transportation or by bicycle instead of by car. 

The love for nature also extends to the love for the natural beauty of the human body. Nudity in Germany is not such a big deal (in the right places, of course) and in saunas for example, going nude is seen as the healthier option than wearing a swimsuit.

After some time in Germany, you’ll definitely find yourself wanting to spend more time in the great outdoors and feeling less self-conscious about being naked in public. 

You take better care of yourself

Perhaps the best way that living in Germany changes you is in your attitude towards your health. 

Germany has one of the best healthcare systems in the world and, though those obligatory monthly health insurance payments can sometimes be painful, the insurance system comes with a lot of benefits. 

You don’t usually have to wait long for an appointment with a specialist and most health insurance companies subsidise special treatments like osteopathy, physiotherapy and even dental care.  

The German attitude towards sickness and work also firmly prioritises individual health. 

Whereas, in other countries, it might be normal to go to work with a runny nose or a cough, it’s generally frowned upon to go to work in Germany when you’re sick.

There’s a cultural expectation in Germany that employees should take care of their health and not put others at risk by coming to work when they are sick. This is seen as responsible behaviour, and it is generally appreciated when employees take time off to recover fully before returning to work.

German law also guarantees employees the right to take sick leave without fear of losing their jobs or suffering any other form of negative consequence.

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GERMAN LANGUAGE

‘Umpf’: Six noises to help you sound like a German

You may think fancy vocab is the only way to impress your friends in German, but these quirky noises could actually be the key to sounding like a local.

'Umpf': Six noises to help you sound like a German

For most German-language learners, it’s a familiar scenario: you kick off your language journey with textbooks and courses and eventually start to get comfortable with the tricky grammar and vocabulary.

But as soon as you start talking to a native speaker, you’ll probably hear several words you’ve never heard before – and even a few confusing noises that are hard to decipher.

These funny sounds – which are usually described as discourse markers by linguists – can be used to express anything from exhaustion to surprise, or even to check whether the person you’re talking to is listening.

If you want to sound like a native, it’s worth getting familiar with these quirky noises and trying to incorporate them in your everyday speech.

The good news is that they’re a lot more fun to use than the tricky words you learn in language schools.

What’s more, they’re an easy way to add some natural flair and personality to your German.

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Tja

Hearing this word can be confusing for foreigners, because it may sound an awful lot like “ja”, or yes.

But rather than being an affirmative response to a question, ‘tja’ is often used ahead of a contradiction or as an expression of scepticism, similar to the English word “well”.

You may also hear “tja”, or even “ja”, simply used as filler words for the speaker to buy time to think about what they’re saying. For example, if a stranger asks you if the next train to Dresden leaves from Platform 3, you may respond with “Ja… nein”, if you aren’t quite sure of the answer.

Another key meaning of ‘tja’ is best summed by a meme that defines it as a the typical German response to the apocalypse, nuclear war, alien attack or having no bread in the house.

When something catastrophic has happened – like the apolocalypse or an empty bread shelf – it can be taken to mean either “I told you so” or “sh*t happens”, casting an ironic light over the gloomy situation.

Here’s how you pronounce it.


This is a word you won’t read in the German textbooks, but “hä” is a sure-fire way to sound more German in your conversations.

Much like the English “huh?”, you can use “hä?” to express surprise or incomprehension. If a friend from your German course tells you they actually enjoy learning German grammar, then a disbelieving “hä?” is probably an apt response.

In a more banal context, if you haven’t quite understood what somebody’s said, a gentle “hä?” could stand in for the more polite and formal, “wie bitte?”.

A word of warning, though: “hä?” is viewed as very informal and can even be construed as rude in certain situations, so be sure to only use it among people you’re very friendly and familiar with.

Here’s how you pronounce it.

READ ALSO: German word of the day – Hä?

Ne

Whether you’re a fan of German podcasts or have a few German friends who enjoy to speak at length about the world, you’ve probably come across ‘ne’ at some point or other.

It’s generally used at the end of sentences to check that the other person is listening and has understood, similar to the English “right?” or “you know?”.

For that reason, it often has a high inflection, as if you’re asking a question – though you don’t necessarily expect a response.

So next time you embark on a long rant in German, try interjecting a “ne?” or two. This can add variety to your tone and at the very least ensure the other person hasn’t fallen asleep halfway through.

Here’s how it’s pronounced.

Auwa

When a German child trips and falls over at the Spielplatz, the first thing they may shout is, “Auwaaaaa!” before calling on their parents to come and comfort them.

But it’s not just the little ones who use this noise to express pain in Germany – adults will also emit an occasional “auwa!” if they accidentally stub their toe.

A sad teddy bear with broken arm

A sad teddy bear with a broken arm. “Auwa” is the most German way to respond to a painful accident. Photo: Photo by Trym Nilsen on Unsplash

An alternative to “auwa” is the more English-style “auch!”, which is pronounced the same as “ouch!” but spelled differently. This can also be used to respond to a comment that stings a little, as a good-natured way of letting someone know your feelings were hurt.

Here’s how “auwa” is pronounced.

Puh

Though hearing this word may bring some toilet humour to mind, “puh” has less to do with bodily functions than you might expect.

It’s actually more similar to the English word “phew”, which is used to express tiredness or relief.

One scenario you might use “puh” is after running to the bus stop to catch the last bus home. Once you sprint through the doors and sink into your seat, you may let out an exhausted “puh!” to show your relief at having made it.

Before you forget the more childish connotations entirely though, it’s worth knowing you can also use “puh” when encountering something disgusting.

If it’s your turn to take out the Biomüll and the rotten vegetables are starting to emit a foul odour, you might say, “Puh! Es stinkt!” (Ew! It stinks!”), before hurrying to the bins as fast as you can. 

Here’s how it’s pronounced.

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Uff / Umpf

If you’ve ever eaten an entire bowl of Käsespätzle, you probably know the sensation of feeling so full you’re about to burst.

For precisely this situation, you’ll need to know “umpf” or “uff”. Both of these words neatly sum up that feeling of being stuffed to the brim with food – but not necessarily in a bad way.

A bit like “oof!” in English, “uff” and “umpf” are ways of showing that you’re both sated and a little bit sleepy after a big meal. With Germany’s very hearty cuisine, they’re both expressions that you’ll need in your life fairly often.

Here’s how “uff” is pronounced.

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