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8 phrases you need for getting romantic in German

With Valentine’s day just around the corner, here are some essential phrases to help you woo your German lover.

A woman holds a heart-shaped balloon in front of the Brandenburg Gate in Berlin.
A woman holds a heart-shaped balloon in front of the Brandenburg Gate in Berlin. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Annette Riedl

1. Ich habe Schmetterlinge im Bauch

The feeling of excitement and anticipation when you set eyes on your crush is the same for Germans as it is for English-native speakers, it seems: the phrase “having butterflies in the stomach” – or Schmetterlinge im Bauch – is widely used in Germany too. 

2. Ich bin verknallt in dich

Before you reach the being-in-love part of a relationship, you may find yourself being verknallt in someone – meaning to have a crush on someone.

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As the noun Knall means “bang” or “crash” in German, it’s likely that the expression comes from the feeling of being hit with a crashing infatuation. 

If you want to hear the phrase sung, along with some other sweet German declarations of loving admiration, listen to this song from German cabaret sing, Helge Scheider.

3. Du machst mich an

If you want to take things up a notch from hand-holding and smooching, you might want to drop this one into conversation with your beau. 

Anmachen literally means “to switch on” in German, but in the context of love, it means “to turn on”. 

4. Du hast wunderschöne Augen

A stone-cold dating classic that’s sure to bring a smile to your German sweetheart’s face. Meaning “you have beautiful eyes” this phrase is a guaranteed winner. Of course, you can replace Augen (“eyes”) with any other part that you find particularly beautiful. Ahem.

5. Ich kann nicht aufhören, an dich zu denken

Used sparingly, this phrase, which means “I can’t stop thinking about you” can be the ultimate compliment for your German lover. Try not to overuse it though, lest you stray into creepy territory.

A couple kisses in New York City. Photo: Clay Banks/Unsplash

6. Willst du mein Freund/meine Freundin sein?

In the modern world – and especially in the dating scene of the German capital, Berlin – it might not always be clear where you stand with your lover in terms of exclusivity. 

READ ALSO: 10 reasons why you should date (or even fall in love with) a German

To clear things up and move to the next level by becoming an official girlfriend or boyfriend you can ask this question, which means “Do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend?”

Hopefully, they won’t say Ich bin nicht auf der Suche nach etwas Ernstem (“I’m not looking for anything serious”).

7. Ich bin in dich verliebt

Ah, to be in love. This is the phrase you want to save for that special someone when you know it’s really love, as it means “I am in love with you”. 

Another, very straightforward way to declare your love is to say “Ich liebe dich” or even “Ich hab’ dich lieb”.

8. Küss mich

Even if you don’t know any German, you can probably guess what this one means. But it’s just so crucial – we put it in anyway. Now kiss me.

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The vocabulary you need for the perfect Christmas in Germany

There's nothing worse than finding yourself tongue-tied as you sit around the table with German friends and relatives over Christmas. To make sure the festive season goes off without a hitch, here are some words and phrases that may come in handy.

The vocabulary you need for the perfect Christmas in Germany

Christmas is almost upon us, and it’s the perfect time of year to spend time with loved one and treat ourselves. Of course, for international residents in Germany, the season can also present one or two linguistic challenges.

Even if your German friends and family speak good English, it’s nice to be able to impress them by thanking them for a delicious dinner or the ideal gift in their native tongue – or telling them how much you like their festive decor.

If the idea of doing that is turning you into the Grinch, never fear: we’ve got a handy guide for some of the key vocab that you’ll need to get through the season. 

So whether you’re counting down the days until Christmas or swapping presents around the tree, here’s how to navigate the festive season in true German style. 

General vocabulary 

Let’s deal with some of the basics first: what is this time of year even called in German?

Well, the general term for Christmas is ‘Weihnachten’. This tends to mean Christmas Day (the 25th) and can also be referred to as Weihnacht, Christfest or Heiliger Christ.  

As you may know, however, the main day of celebration for most Germans is the 24th, or Christmas Eve. This is known as Heiliger Abend or Heiligabend, which basically translates as “Holy Evening”. It’s when most children can expect a special visit from Father Christmas or Santa Claus, who is known in German as the Weihnachtsmann

In parts of western and southern Germany – as well as in Switzerland and Austria – a rather more glamourous gift-giving figure replaces the rotund man trying to squeeze down a chimney. Here, the Christkind – who is normally presented as an angelic young lady – will bring gifts to the children who’ve been good all year round.

The word in German for describing these traditions is Bräuche, which means “customs”, though Traditionen can also be used. These may come in handy when asking your friends about the festive practices in their region.

You can kick off an interesting discussion by asking something along the lines of: “Welche Weihnachtstraditionen habt ihr in deine Region?” (Which Christmas traditions do you have in your region?) or “Gibt es bestimmte Weihnachtsbräuche, die hier in Sachsen üblich sind?” (Are there certain Christmas customs that are common here in Saxony?).

And if you want a general word for a Christmas celebration, the word to use is Weihnachtsfeier

READ ALSO: How do Germans celebrate Christmas?

In the run-up to Christmas

Of course, it’s not all about ripping open gifts and enjoying a slap-up meal on Christmas Day (or Eve). In fact, the festive period really kicks off on November 27th, which marks the start of Adventzeit

The word Advent stems from the Latin for “arrival” and it’s a time of preparation for the arrival of Christ at Christmas. There are many German traditions that occur over the weeks running up to the 24th (when Adventzeit ends). Alongside the customary Adventskalender (advent calendar), you may see German friends or relatives lighting the candles on an Adventskranz

The Adventskranz is a wreath made out of fir sprigs with four candles, which are normally a festive red colour. These symbolise the four weeks leading up to Christmas, with a new candle lit on every Advent Sunday. 

A giant Adventskranz in Waldbreitbach

A giant Adventskranz floats on the river in Waldbreitbach, Rhineland-Palatinate. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Thomas Frey

You may also notice that your local Weihnachtsmarkt (or Christmas market) opens on or around November 27th. This staple of the German Christmas period is normally timed to coincide with Adventszeit – though in some cases they do stay open after Christmas so people can enjoy another mug or two of Glühwein before the New Year. 

Of course, it wouldn’t be Christmas without some festive treats, and Germans in particular are known to enjoy Adventsbacken – delicious cakes and cookies that are common at this time of year. Some Gebäck (little biscuits) are formed into festive shapes like stars and Christmas trees and flavoured with seasonal spices. But the king of all Adventsbacken has to be the Christstollen, a delicious type of fruit cake with marzipan that originated in Dresden.

In essence, this time of year is all about Vorfreude – the joy involved in looking forward to something before it happens. 


Around the dinner table

A major part of traditional Christmas celebrations – in Germany and elsewhere – is enjoying a hearty meal with loved ones. That’s why brushing up on your eating and drinking vocab is essential for making it through the festive season.

Firstly, what can you expect to be served by your German pals, or Kumpels, over Christmas? Well, the Weihnachtsgans (Christmas goose) or Ente (duck) is normally an essential component, prepared with seasonal herbs like thyme and marjoram and infused with other flavours like sour apples and onions.

As a side dish, Rotkohl is standard: juicy, cooked-down red cabbage sweetened with apple juice and red wine. Then you’ll need potatoes (Kartoffeln) or dumplings (Knödeln) and lashings of Bratensauce (gravy). 

A traditional German Christmas dinner

A traditional German Christmas dinner with goose, red cabbage and potatoes. Photo: picture alliance/dpa/dpa-Zentralbild | Jan Woitas

There are also other dishes that are commonly enjoyed by families on Heiligabend, such as Kartoffelsalat mit Würstchen (potato salad with sausages) in eastern Germany or even Karpfen mit Sauerkraut (carp and sauerkraut) in the coastal region of Schleswig-Holstein.

If you want to compliment your host on their excellent cooking skills, you can describe the food as “lecker” or “köstlich” (delicious) or simply say, “Danke, das hat mir geschmeckt” as the table is being cleared. 

And if Uncle Günther is trying to foist yet another helping of potatoes on you when you can’t eat another thing, you can always say: “Danke, aber ich kann nicht mehr!” (Thanks, but I can’t eat anymore) or “Das war köstlich, danke, aber jetzt bin ich wirklich satt!” (That was delicious, thank you, but now I’m really full). 

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Opening gifts 

Gift-giving is another key tradition for Germans at Christmastime. The gifts are usually placed under the Christmas tree, which is called Weihnachtsbaum or Tannenbaum in German.

Traditionally this was put up on Christmas Eve, though these days it’s not unusual for people to put it up much earlier. (Incidentally, the decorations on the tree – and elsewhere in the house – are known as Schmuck, or Weihnachtsschmuck.)

A cat snuggles up among Christmas presents

A cat snuggles up among Christmas presents under the tree. Photo: picture alliance / Ole Spata/dpa | Ole Spata

Don’t, whatever you do, make the mistake of using the German word “gift” to describe the presents that you buy people. Das Gift is a common false friend in German, because while it sounds like the English word it actually translates as “poison”. Instead, use the word Geschenke (or Geschenk in singular)to describe the gifts you’ve lovingly picked out for people. They’ll tend to be wrapped in Geschenkpapier, or wrapping paper, so people get a nice surprise when they come to open them. 

To thank people for presents without reverting to “Vielen Dank” over and over again, a few of these phrases may come in useful:

“Es gefällt mir sehr gut!” (I really like it!)

“Das ist sehr großzügig von dir.” (That’s very generous of you.)

“Wie hast du gewusst? Ich liebe Schokolade!” (How did you know? I love chocolate!) 

“Was für ein schönes Geschenk. Danke dir.” (What a beautiful gift, thank you.)

READ ALSO: What’s the history behind Germany’s Christmas traditions?

Keep a handful of these phrases in mind and you’re sure to impress your German friends with your language skills this Christmas. Got any tips of your own for celebrating the festive period in Germany? Let us know.