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Prost! Why do Germans make eye contact when they clink glasses?

It is a custom that has caught out every expat at one point or another: so why do Germans insist on looking each other in the eye when they say cheers?

Prost! Why do Germans make eye contact when they clink glasses?
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We've all been there. You've had a long day at work, and you're sitting down to enjoy a drink with one of your German friends. Before you take your first sip of sweet, sweet Helles, you raise your glass, as humans have done across the world since time immemorial. 

You clink glasses with your friend and utter a hearty “Prost!”. Then suddenly your friend's face darkens. You have committed the biggest faux-pas in German drinking etiquette: you have failed to make eye contact as you clinked your glasses together. 

Perhaps you have just arrived in Germany and were unaware of the custom. Perhaps you are British and therefore hard-wired to find extended eye contact highly uncomfortable. Perhaps you are with more than one friend, and you simply couldn't face leaning at full stretch, table corner digging into your pelvis, to clink glasses and pointedly stare into the eyes of the people on the other side. 

Whatever the reason, you have upset the Germans. For them, clinking glasses and making eye contact is an absolute must whenever two or more people are gathered in the name of alcohol. 

Ask them why, and they will give you the answer everybody knows. If you don't make eye contact, you are in for seven years of coital misery. 

Yet that is a superstition, not a reason. “Look me in the eye or you will get seven years of bad sex” is only really a credible argument if it comes from the mouth of the person you share a bed with, and that person is really committed to delivering on promises. 

In truth, as with all these things, nobody can say for sure where, when and why the custom originated, and why it persists in Germany and elsewhere in Europe. There are, however, a number of theories, most of which relate to medieval times. 

One suggestion is that the clinking of glasses mimics the fanfare which would have played when a King raised his glass to begin a feast. Yet that doesn't explain the eye contact rule. 

The most credible explanation is that clinking glasses is an insurance mechanism against being poisoned. If the person you are drinking with had poisoned your drinks, bumping your glasses together, particularly if done with some force, would mean that the drinks would splash into one another, and your potential murderer would risk killing themselves along with you. 

So why the eye contact? The only way to be sure that the poison had not spilled into his glass would be to watch the glasses as they hit each other. By making eye contact at that moment, the two drinkers assert to one another that there is no reason to look at the glasses, establishing a mutual trust that neither drink is poisoned. 

How much genuine historical evidence is there for this theory? Not a great deal. But it is at least harder to disprove than the seven year rule. And after all, taller tales have been told after a few beers. 

So there you have it. Even if you are not worried about seven years of unsatisfactory intercourse, you might be worried about being poisoned. So embrace the eye contact and give your glass a good old bump.

READ MORE: 8 strange superstitions that the Germans hold

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10 essential tips for avoiding rental scams in Germany

Rental scams are on the rise in Germany, and fraudsters are becoming more sophisticated than you may think. We spoke to a couple who were scammed in Berlin to put together tips to stay safe while house hunting.

10 essential tips for avoiding rental scams in Germany

When it comes to settling in Germany, one of the most stressful and difficult tasks you’re likely to face is finding a place to live.

With the country in the grip of an ever-worsening housing shortage, there aren’t enough rental properties to meet the high demand – especially in big cities like Berlin, Munich and Frankfurt – and the flats that are available can often stretch even the most healthy of budgets. 

With renters desperate to find affordable homes, crafty scammers have seized the chance to place fake ads on the market, often in dream locations with lower-than-average rents. 

While some of these scams may be easy to spot, others can be highly sophisticated, with fraudsters setting up professional-looking websites and even allowing hopeful tenants to view their properties in person.

Recently The Local reported on a Polish couple who lost around €7,000 through a rental scam in Berlin. The scammers had sublet a beautiful Altbau apartment in the popular district of Neukölln and created an advert for it via a fake letting agent website, then arranged for people to use a key box to view the property while the real tenants were away. 

READ ALSO: How sophisticated scammers are targeting desperate Berlin tenants

Despite checking the contract over with legal experts from their local tenants’ association, nobody saw anything out of the ordinary – that is, until they tried to access the apartment and found a family already living there.

So, how do you protect your hard-earned savings and steer clear of scammers while looking for a new home?

Here are 10 important ways to protect yourself from rental scams. 

1. Be alert to suspicious signs 

The key to avoiding scammers in Germany is to be fully clued up on the warning signs. Was the listing for the property uploaded in the middle of the night, is the advert thin on details or written in bad German or English, and does the offer feel too good to be true?

Though it would be nice to believe there are still cheap flats to be found, finding an attractive property at an overly reasonable price is usually a red flag. 

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Modern apartments in Hamburg. Photo: picture alliance/dpa | Daniel Bockwoldt

If someone claiming to be a landlord contacts you out of the blue, that’s also your cue to run a mile. With so many people looking for housing, most letting agents and landlords will have more than people looking to rent their properties without needing to get in touch with people themselves. Anyone who does is more than likely to be a scammer.

2. Rule out landlords who say they live abroad

One of the major warning signs to look out for is a landlord who claims to be renting the property from abroad, or who says they are out of the country for other reasons, like a last-minute business trip.

That’s usually a scammer’s way of excusing the fact that they won’t be able to meet you personally or even show you the property before you rent it.

“When the country the landlord lives in appears then I would say there’s a really big chance this is a scam,” said Kuba Rudzinski, one of the victims of the Berlin-Neukölln rental fraud.

Even if the excuse seems plausible, your best bet is to ignore anyone who tries to sell you a story about living abroad and simply move on with your house hunt.

READ ALSO: Why Germany’s housing crisis is expected to drag on

3. Do your research online

Before committing to anything, take time to do some thorough research to scope out the property, landlord and letting agent. 

Running the pictures and text used in apartment listings through a search engine like Google will help you quickly identify stock photos and text stolen from other listings. For pictures, this is known as a reverse image search. 

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Photo by 2H Media on Unsplash

It’s also worth checking that any websites you’re sent to are fully functional and not copies of other letting agent sites, and that any email addresses match the website domain. 

READ ALSO: How much deposit do I have to pay when renting in Germany?

4. Visit the property and ask around 

Never agree to rent a property without seeing it in person first. Arrange a viewing and take the opportunity to ask questions about the property and the neighbourhood. 

Kuba also recommends speaking with the neighbours in the building to check if the property is genuinely being rented. 

“Go to the place before and ask the neighbours, is this flat really for rent? Because these people generally know,” he said. “You’ll need to convince yourself to do it of course, but just ask in the building, ask on the floor where the flat is.”

5. Don’t transfer the full deposit in advance

Advance payments for anything, whether it’s furniture, a deposit or getting a chance to view the property, should be considered a major red flag.

Under German law, you are usually only expected to pay the deposit by the start of the agreed rental contract – and certainly not several months in advance.

Euro notes lie next to some house keys on a table.

Euro notes lie next to some house keys on a table. Photo: picture alliance/dpa/dpa-tmn | Andrea Warnecke

You are also legally entitled to pay your three months’ deposit in three instalments on top of your first three months’ rent after moving in, so definitely be cautious of landlords that place pressure on you to transfer a large lump sum.

If you’re really concerned, look into alternatives for paying your deposit, such as Kautionversicherung (deposit insurance) or a Mietkautionssparbuch, where you open a bank account and pledge the amount to the landlord, rather than transferring the money directly. 

6. Insist on meeting the landlord or letting agent in person

If a landlord or letting agent refuses to meet you in person or insists on conducting all communication online, they’re probably not who they say they are. 

Insist on meeting face-to-face to verify their identity and ensure they have a legitimate connection to the property.

7. Avoid sending documents straight away 

Not all rental scams are about getting money from you directly: many scammers are simply after your personal details for the purposes of identity theft.

Be wary of providing personal documents or sensitive information before you’ve verified the legitimacy of the rental agreement, especially when it comes to things like passport scans or other forms of ID. 

READ ALSO: Five common rental scams in Germany and how to avoid them

8. Seek legal advice from experts

If you’re unsure about any aspect of the rental agreement or if something seems suspicious, seek advice from legal experts or tenants’ associations. 

However, be aware that this isn’t always a cast-iron guarantee that a tenancy is legitmate. Over the past few years, fraudsters have become increasingly sophisticated, even down to producing water-tight rental contracts for would-be tenants. 

An estate agent hands over keys to an apartment. Photo: picture alliance/dpa/dpa-tmn | Christin Klose

According to civil lawyer Emilia Tintelnot, becoming a member of a tenants’ association can be a good way to get affordable legal advice, and it can also be helpful to set up legal insurance to ensure you can access help when you need it without having to pay lawyers’ fees up front.

9. Be wary of stereotypes 

Avoid making assumptions based on stereotypes or preconceived notions about someone’s gender or nationality, as this may cause you to overlook things you might otherwise see as warning signs.

In Kuba’s case, the fact that the fraudsters were German made them appear more legitimate in his eyes, as Polish people tend to see Germans as law-abiding and trustworthy. 

Be aware that scammers can come from any cultural background and may use a variety of tactics to deceive unsuspecting renters.

10. Keep an extensive paper trail 

Document all communication, agreements, and transactions related to the rental process, including phone numbers and any bank details provided.

According to the Berlin police, this type of evidence can be crucial for an investigation if you do suspect a scammer.

While evidence can differ across cases, “pictures, contact details used by the perpetrators, original documents, bank details with payment receipts” are particularly helpful for investigators, and could help the police stop the scammers for good. 

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