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The peculiar Franco-British habits I just can’t shake

If you grow up Franco-British there are certain habits, both Gallic and "Anglo-Saxon" that you just can't shake, in fact you are quite proud of them, writes Anya Walsh.

The peculiar Franco-British habits I just can't shake
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Growing up both French and British can be a bit confusing.

I often think of myself like Jekyll and Hyde, with two personalities battling each other. I’ve grown to live with it and even enjoy the weird mix of cultures. Here are a few habits from each country that I am proud of.

1 – Not being able to go without a cup of tea. Ever.

 And it must always be made with milk and a few hobnobs on the side, my Britishness demands it.

2 – Not being able to live without cheese.

This is an obvious French one, but it is also the most important aspect of my life. I remember going abroad a few times and having a lump in my stomach knowing I wasn’t going to be able to eat cheese as much. That’s the sign of a real cheese addiction.

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3 – Not having to sit down to eat a proper lunch.

This is something I take more from my British side than my French. Now, I am not saying that people in the UK don’t value lunchtime or can’t sit down to a good meal. Only I feel French people will put a lot more effort into keeping their lunch break sacred and sometimes insisting on having a three course meal. With younger generations, this tradition is slowly disappearing but it still is true for many. I like it a lot, although I haven’t got so much time on my hands and will often opt for just a good sandwich and a bag of crisps.

4 –  Sitting outside a café with a coffee and a cigarette and watching (judging) the passers by.

I feel so French when I do this. I know. I am a terrible person. But it’s just so entertaining.

5 – Going mad about charity shops.

This is typically British. You never know what you might find in charity shops in the UK and it’s always a treat when I go back there to visit family. I just have to check if there is an Armani jacket for £10 lurking about in one of the many shops.

I am a bit sad that the charity shop phenomenon hasn’t really caught on in France although it is starting here and there. The Emmaus market is a good alternative. An Emmaus can be found anywhere and there is everything to buy from clothes to furniture for knock-down prices. All the money collected is given to help the homeless, so it’s worth having a look. You can often find absolute gems.

6 – Apologising for literally everything.

“Pardon Madame”, “Pardon Monsieur” I say to the passers by who look at me bizarrelly. French people often ask what I am apologising for. I just can’t help it. Saying sorry is in my British nature. 

7 – Not really minding the rain, in fact, quite enjoying it sometimes.

When the sun has been shining too bright for too long, I get hot and tired so when a rainy day comes, I open my windows wide and get really upbeat. All the French people around me call me crazy but I just say “eh, je suis British, moi!”.

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8 – Putting a bar of chocolate between a baguette and then eating it all.

Yes, this really does happen In France.

9 – No chocolate bar? No worries.

I just spread some butter on the baguette and sprinkle some cocoa powder on top. It’s the same thing. This trick was shown to me once by a French wild boar hunter I met in a café. 

10 – No minding that every floor in a house is covered in carpet.

I have talked to French people who cannot stand to walk around a house covered in carpets but I quite like the feeling.

11 – Having a good old rant with the shopkeeper/waiter/neighbour/bus driver about literally everything and anything.

There is nothing like having a good old moan with someone you meet on a day to day basis in France.

It’s a great ice-breaker and a good opportunity to make new friends, not to mention it’s a good way to relieve stress. The great thing is that it doesn’t even matter what you are ranting about so long as you RANT to your heart’s content.

12 – Treating my dog as if he's a king i.e. letting him sleep in my bed and actually cooking his meals.

When it comes to my dog, I am definitely more British than French. Perhaps in big cities such as Paris, French people also dote on their canine friends as much. But I come from the rural backwaters of France (Burgundy) where for many, dogs are either used for hunting or for guarding the house. Some can be let into the home and I do see more of my neighbours walking their animals but this still is quite rare. Often, a dog will never be let indoors and will be tied outside or left to roam free in the garden.

13 – If I’ve got a cold, forget medicine.

I’ll just take some Eau de Vie, a type of brandy, pour it on a cube of sugar and eat that. It's a typical French remedy. It burns your throat for a while but you end up feeling much better. This method is also used with children so you get used to it from an early age.

14 – Finally getting that “Christmassy” feeling around December and talking to everyone around me as if it were actually a thing.

Something I have noticed a lot of British people do and I am guilty of it too. I haven’t heard any French person talk about a “Christmassy feeling” yet.

15 – Being able to laugh at not entirely politically correct jokes.

This is very French. Again, I am a terrible person and this is also what a French person may tell you if you catch him out making one of those “bad” jokes. I think satire and dark humour is a big part of French culture and something any young French person is more or less prone to do.

Think of Charlie Hebdo magazine for example. Only in France could such a paper exist. You would probably be prosecuted anywhere else for hate speech. Even though I may sometimes be offended by what my friends are joking about or by what I read in the papers, I know there is no point in me fighting it, it’s something deeply ingrained here, so I just live with it.

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16 – Hating the wine but finishing the bottle anyway.

A true French wine lover could never bring himself to finish a bottle of wine he or she finds disgusting, life is too short to drink bad wine as they say. But this doesn’t bother the British side of me and I’ll go ahead anyway.

17 – Dunking my croissant in my morning coffee. Basic French move, bien sûr.

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Five signs you’ve settled into life in Switzerland

Getting adjusted to Swiss ways is not always easy for foreign nationals, but with a lot of perseverance it can be done. This is how you know you’ve assimilated.

Five signs you've settled into life in Switzerland
No lint: Following laundry room rules is a sign of integration in Switzerland. Photo by Sara Chai from Pexels

Much has been said about Switzerland’s quirkiness, but when you think about it, this country’s idiosyncrasies are not more or less weird than any other nation’s — except for the fact that they are expressed in at least three languages which, admittedly, can complicate matters a bit.

However, once you master the intricacies and nuances of Swiss life, you will feel like you belong here.

This is when you know you’ve “made it”.

You speak one of the national languages, even if badly

It irritates the Swiss to no end when a foreigner, and particularly an English-speaking foreigner, doesn’t make an effort to learn the language of a region in which he or she lives, insisting instead that everyone communicates to them in their language.

So speaking the local language will go a long way to being accepted and making you feel settled in your new home.

You get a Swiss watch and live by it

Punctuality is a virtue here, while tardiness is a definite no-no.

If you want to ingratiate yourself to the Swiss, be on time. Being even a minute late  may cause you to miss your bus, but also fail in the cultural integration.

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Using an excuse like “my train was late” may be valid in other countries, but not in Switzerland.

The only exception to this rule is if a herd of cows or goats blocks your path, causing you to be late.

A close-up of a Rolex watch in Switzerland.

Owning a Rolex is a sure sign you’re rich enough to live in Switzerland. Photo by Adam Bignell on Unsplash

You sort and recycle your trash

The Swiss are meticulous when it comes to waste disposal and, not surprisingly, they have strict regulations on how to throw away trash in an environmentally correct manner.

Throwing away all your waste in a trash bag without separating it first — for instance, mixing PET bottles with tin cans or paper — is an offence in Switzerland which can result in heavy fines, the amount of which is determined by each individual commune.

In fact, the more assiduous residents separate every possible waste item — not just paper, cardboard, batteries and bottles (sorted by colour), but also coffee capsules, yogurt containers, scrap iron and steel, organic waste, carpets, and electronics.

In fact, with their well-organised communal dumpsters or recycling bins in neighbourhoods, the Swiss have taken the mundane act of throwing out one’s garbage to a whole new level of efficiency.

So one of the best ways to fit in is to be as trash-oriented as the Swiss.

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You trim your hedges with a ruler

How your garden looks says a lot about you.

If it’s unkempt and overgrown with weeds, you are clearly a foreigner (though likely not German or Austrian).

But if your grass is cut neatly and your hedges trimmed with military-like precision (except on Sundays), and some of your bushes and shrubs are shaped like poodles,  you will definitely fit in.

You follow the laundry room rules

If you live in an apartment building, chances are there is a communal laundry room in the basement that is shared by all the residents.

As everything else in Switzerland, these facilities are regulated by a …laundry list of “dos” and “don’ts” that you’d well to commit to memory and adhere to meticulously.

These rules relate to everything from adhering to the assigned time slot to removing lint from the dryer.

Following each rule to the letter, and not trying to wash your laundry in someone else’s time slot, is a sign of successful integration.

Voilà, the five signs you are “at home” in Switzerland.

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