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Stir over Swede’s advert for sexy male flatmate

A Facebook post by a 19-year-old Swedish girl searching for a 'good looking as hell' flatmate has caused a stir on social media, with the teenager accused of objectifying men.

Stir over Swede's advert for  sexy male flatmate
Alicia Hansson. Photo: Private
Finding an apartment can be a nightmare in major Swedish cities, where short-term second hand contracts are the norm unless you've been on a waiting list for years. Flat sharing is also rare – half of Swedish households are inhabited by just one person – the highest proportion in Europe.
 
Aware of the tricky rental market and her own singledom, Alicia Hansson, 19, took an unusual approach when posting an advert on a flat-hunting Facebook group page in Gothenburg last week.
 
Currently preparing to return to Sweden after working as an Au Pair in Spain, she wrote: "Are you good looking as hell, charming and know how to put down the toilet seat after you?"
 
The advert continued: "Searching high and low for a prospective room mate/partner to move in with some time after the summer. Love is absolutely no obligation!"
 
She wrote that she would be happy to cook, clean and keep track of bills, while her new co-habitor would have to "more or less just exist".
 
Within days she had well over 1,000 responses to the advert, with some men even sending her romantic poems or snaps of their bare chests.
 
 
 
"From past experience, I can say that the combination of a handsome, charming man who folds down the toilet seat is not particularly common. So you could call my advert a mixture of humour and a cry for help searching for that non-existant, ideal man," Hansson told the Gothenburg Post, which broke the story on Monday.
 
Speaking to The Local, she added: "My first intention was just to find an apartment for me to rent after the summer…But instead of erasing my vision of having someone lying on the other side of the bed I decided…I might as well spice up the criteria a little while I'm at it!"
 
"In my world, love is what creates a home," she said.
 
But the post has attracted some criticism, with commenters on social media accusing her of flaunting her own looks and bashing Sweden's gender-equal ideals.
 
"White trash," one post below Metro's version of the story simply said. 
 
Others appeared baffled by the idea: "Is this some kind of social experiment?" wrote Jonas Bengtsson, another member of the same apartment rental group on Facebook.
 
But others praised the teenager for her approach.
 
"Hahahaha, best advert on here," posted Gillis Tjenare Mannen Wiktorsson, while Siya Mhlwatika wrote in English "hilarious lady this!".
 
The Au Pair told The Local that she was genuinely interested in meeting people who had contacted her about her advert, suggesting that the men who had reached out to her might be "more serious" about finding a partner than those using dating apps such as Tinder and Badoo.
 
"I have found very many funny and charming people, but it's a little hard to have a coffee with them when I am still in Spain," she laughed.
 
Responding to complaints that she had both exploited her sexuality and objectified men, she said: "Today people are so busy trying to prove a point about how the world really is that they forget it’s important to have fun too."
 
However she added that she did know how to "make a man feel king" by seducing him with her eyes.
 
Room seekers have previously been known to find love from looking for apartments online. In the UK, Helen and John Webster made national headlines when they got married after meeting via British rental site SpareRoom.

READER INSIGHTS

‘Benny is always very kind’: Foreigners’ top encounters with Swedish celebrities

We asked The Local's readers to tell us of a time they met a Swedish celebrity. Here are their best stories.

'Benny is always very kind': Foreigners' top encounters with Swedish celebrities

Some readers shared stories of encounters with Swedes who are also global stars, such as Abba or the King and Queen of Sweden, others spoke of meeting national celebrities who had helped them get to know their new home country.

Anne Foo from Malaysia is a fan of the Sällskapsresan movies by Lasse Åberg, who plays the kind but hapless Stig Helmer.

“It was one of the first Swedish films I watched when I first moved to Sweden that I could understand without needing to be fluent. It helped me understand the Swedish psyche and their humour and Swedish people in general,” she said.

Multi-talented artist Åberg is also known for his sketches of Mickey Mouse, as well as Trazan & Banarne, one of Sweden’s most famous children’s shows, and his band Electric Banana Band. Anne met him when she visited his museum, Åbergs Museum, outside of Stockholm.

“We were not expecting to see him there but we kind of heard he pops by the museum often to help out. We bought tickets for the guided tour and lucky us the guide fell sick (sorry guide!) and Lasse, who happened to pop by just then, took over and gave us a personal guided tour of his museum. He is just as he was as Stig Helmer. Has a down-to-earth humour, very intelligent and humble.”

Another reader, Doug, met Swedish singer Lisa Nilsson when she was performing the lead role in the musical Next to Normal at Stockholm’s Stadsteater, a performance she got rave reviews for.

“I have loved Lisa Nilsson for years, ever since Himlen runt hörnet was required listening in my Swedish class,” he wrote on The Local’s Facebook page.

“After the performance I waited by the stage door to see if I could meet her. Many people came out, but not her – until finally she exited, alone. I approached her and she was not just gracious – she seemed genuinely excited to meet an American fan. We stood (in the rain, no less) and spoke for a while. I came away feeling that my adoration was well-placed: talented, beautiful, and so down to earth. A wonderful entertainer and an extraordinary human being.”

Some readers also shared pictures of themselves running into a Swedish celebrity.

Benjamin Dyke met football coach Sven-Göran Eriksson in Torsby, where Eriksson grew up, at the opening ceremony of the Svennis Cup, a youth football competition held every year in his honour.

Eriksson, more known by his nickname Svennis in Sweden, during his long career coached teams such as Lazio in Italy and brought England, as coach, to the quarter-finals of the 2002 and 2006 World Cups. Earlier this year he disclosed he had been diagnosed with fatal pancreatic cancer.

Dyke’s encounter with Eriksson happened a few years ago, and he walked up to the Swede to thank him for his time as England manager and the two chatted for a while about that.

“He asked where I came from in England and I answered that all my family come from Liverpool. His eyes lit up (I now know he supported Liverpool all his life, as did his dad) but when I explained that I was an Everton fan (the other Liverpool team…) he quickly shut down the conversation and walked away,” said Dyke.

Sven-Göran Eriksson, left, and Benjamin Dyke in 2018. Photo: Private

Readers also shared their stories on The Local’s Facebook page. Lindelwa posted a picture of her chance meeting with Swedish Melodifestivalen winner John Lundvik at Stockholm’s Arlanda Airport, although she revealed they did not share a flight.

Lundvik represented Sweden in the 2019 Eurovision Song Contest with the song Too Late for Love (and co-wrote the UK’s entry, Bigger than Us, the same year), with which he came in fifth.

Lindelwa and John Lundvik. Photo: Private

Gerard met Abba legend Benny Andersson outside his studio in Stockholm.

“I had never seen Benny’s studio so I went to take a look with the ferry from Djurgården to Skeppsholmen. I was told that Benny was in so I waited for a little while and he came out to meet a few fans,” he said, revealing that it was in fact not the first time he ran into Andersson, a composer also known for co-writing hit musicals such as Chess and Kristina from Duvemåla.

“He’s always very kind and patient. I had met him before, last time in 2010 in London for the concert of Kristina at the Royal Albert Hall. Next stop will be May 27th, the second anniversary of Abba Voyage in London where Benny and Björn will do a Q&A before the show.”

Gerard and Benny Andersson back in 2010. Photo: Private

Several other readers also said they had met members of Abba.

“I was a child visiting my relatives in Sweden the year Voulez-Vous was released. My aunt took me to NK [Stockholm mall] to buy the LP. On our way back to her apartment, she spotted Frida on Hamngatan. My aunt was amazing at celeb-spotting, and she was usually very discreet, but in this case she insisted I go up and say hello! Frida was happy to autograph the album for a young fan; it’s still one of my prized possessions today,” said Sue Trowbridge.

Of course, it’s not always easy to recognise celebrities. You might spot a familiar face but not be able to place it, as happened to Linda on two separate occasions when she ran into a Swedish acting star and a member of the Nobel Prize-awarding Swedish Academy.

“I accidentally stared at Pernilla August in a local food shop. She looked familiar but I couldn’t recognise her. She stared back and I suddenly came to my senses and looked another way. Embarrassed. I’ve also stared at Horace Engdahl,” she said.

In The Local’s original survey call-out, we also included a story from Australian reader Jake Farrugia, who was on his lunch break in NK when he spotted a familiar face, Sweden’s Crown Princess Victoria. He walked up to her to ask for a selfie.

“She was very nice and we shared some small talk which truly made me feel like we were on the same level and that she had a strong sense of humanity, as I stood there, butchering her native language with my ‘work in progress’ level of Swedish. I can see why the Swedish people have a deep love and respect for her,” Farrugia said.

“It’s a very un-Swedish thing to do, that’s why I think it’s so fun! All of my encounters with celebrities in Sweden have been very positive so far. It’s all in the approach, you have to be respectful and be OK with others not wanting to give you their time of day, since we all have days where we are feeling less social and those can easily be interpreted as a part of our character, but they rarely are a fair representation.

“If I were to be a celebrity, Sweden would be the place to best blend in. It seems like celebrities can live a somewhat normal life as the construct of ‘celebrity’ isn’t viewed as a thing people go hysteric for as is the case in many other countries.”

The Local’s reader Jake Farrugia snapped this selfie with Sweden’s Crown Princess Victoria. Photo: Private
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