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From diapers to diamonds: Confessions of a Stockholm ‘manny’

Alex Sperry, one of a rare breed of Stockholm few male nannies, or "mannies", talks to The Local's Tara Sonnorp about his journey from a farm in Missouri to the swanky streets of Stockholm to care for kids of the super-rich.

From diapers to diamonds: Confessions of a Stockholm 'manny'

Sperry’s journey from a Midwestern farm to the glitter of Hollywood and then to Sweden is a rags-to-riches story with a difference. Or, as he puts it in a forthcoming book: a diapers-to-diamonds story.

However you want to describe it, Alex’s career is unlike almost any other, and he now finds himself as one of Stockholm’s few nannies and even rarer “mannies”, an existence that carries with it the highs and lows of working as a surrogate parent to children of the super-rich.

Sperry’s career started at 16, when his mother put him in touch with a family who was expecting twins and thought they could do with an extra pair of hands.

“Aside from a little bit of babysitting, I had no experience with children,” he recalls.

But six years later and with two more children to look after, Sperry realized that he had stumbled across a career that, with a little bit of luck, could take him closer to the glamour he had ambitions of reaching.

“I went to Los Angeles after high school and left my name with a number of agencies. While I was there, I got to go to one interview with a producer and his wife at their $30 million mansion,” he says.

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“They didn’t offer me the job but I did see that the opportunities were there so I decided to specialize in multiples.”

Three years, one set of triplets, and another set of twins later, Sperry finally made it onto the books of the A-list employers to whom he had hoped to serve. Now 28, he spends most of the year in his current employers’ 325-square-metre villa in Stockholm and four months in LA during the winter.

At the moment, Alex “lives in” – in his own apartment across the road from his clients – but is soon to move out to his own place in Odenplan.

“The great thing about this job,” says Alex, “are the perks. I have no expenses.”

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The other incredibly rewarding thing is sharing those special moments with the children. However, having a front row seat to children’s developmental milestones sometimes requires some diplomacy.

“It’s a very sensitive issue,” he explains. “Not all parents want to know that you were the one who was there for the kids’ first steps or first haircut, but at the same time the parents don’t have time to be there.”

His current family is an international couple, one of whom is a Swede, and their two small children. Unlike some of his US employers, the Stockholm couple is very modest in their living habits, despite the billions at their disposal. Here the staff consists of a weekly cleaner and Sperry, so he performs multiple roles.

“I worked for a billionaire family in LA and they had six nannies, 24 housekeepers, and three chefs; a much bigger staff. Here it’s just me, so I am housekeeper, estate manager, and personal assistant,” Sperry says.

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Sperry’s day is a long one. Work starts at 7.45am with the morning routine of clothes, breakfast and the school run. After 9am there is a little downtime between errands before picking up the kids from school at 4pm. Sperry then takes them to the park or a museum before returning home to prepare dinner at 5.30pm. The family eats together at around 6 and then the kids get a bit of screen time before bed.

Sperry stays until around 9.15pm, cleaning up, folding laundry and planning the coming week with the parents if they are at home. If they are away, he is on duty 24/7 and days off are rare. There are times too when he wonders if it is all worth it.

He laughs as he remembers struggling to feed one-month-old triplets at two in the morning, using a sort of reverse milking machine system of his own making.

“I thought, I am 20 years old, it’s 2am, and I’m feeding your three kids while you get your beauty sleep. How do I not lose my mind?” he recalls.

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The upside is that Sperry has flown private planes all over the world, stayed in the best hotels, been on the most extravagant vacations and seen the kind of life a farmer’s son from Missouri can only dream of. All at his employer’s expense.

When it comes to working as a nanny in Sweden, Sperry thinks there are big advantages, although nannies in general seem to be few and far between, something he attributes to the availability of great childcare provision and generous parental leave arrangements.

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Sperry also enjoys the fact that the sight of a man cooing with an infant or romping with toddlers doesn’t prompt quizzical stares from passersby in Stockholm.

“It’s much easier to blend in here,” he says. “There are so many dads pushing prams and having play dates that a male nanny doesn’t stick out at all. In LA, dads just don’t seem to take care of their kids.”

Sperry’s dream job, however, is one with a royal twist that he thinks would go a long way toward changing people’s views about “mannies”.

“I would love to work for the royals, Kate Middleton and Will, or Daniel and Victoria, just to explode the image of the typical female nanny,” he says.

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EXPLAINED: What’s happening to house prices and rents in Germany amid the coronavirus crisis?

There's an increased demand on the real estate market in Germany at the moment, and there's drama looming for tenants in Berlin. Here's a look at what's going on.

EXPLAINED: What's happening to house prices and rents in Germany amid the coronavirus crisis?
Frankfurt am Main. Photo: DPA

Ever dream of owning your own home in Germany? Well, sadly, it has become more expensive since the beginning of the pandemic.

In the second quarter (April to June), condominiums were on average 1.3 percent more expensive than at the beginning of the year. Compared to the second quarter of 2019, the increase was 5.9 percent. That's according to Research and Consulting Company for Housing, Real Estate and the Environment (F+B), which Spiegel reported on Monday.

Surprisingly, the price increase for single and two-family houses was even higher than that of apartments. Compared to the previous quarter, the prices of houses increased by 2.9 percent – and even by nine percent year-on-year.

This is unusual because prices for condos in Germany have almost always risen much faster than those for houses over the past 10 years.

Experts said more people are choosing to buy homes in Germany.

“In view of historically unparalleled low lending rates, it seems to be more economical for many buyers to invest in owner-occupied properties instead of renting,” said F+B Managing Director Bernd Leutner.

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It is not known for definite whether the sharp rise in the price of single-family homes is due to increased demand resulting from the coronavirus crisis, for example because families are looking for more space and gardens – but it could be a factor.

The F+B Residential Index measures the rent and price developments on the German real estate market. The index is based on the supply data of more than 30 million properties throughout Germany.

What's happening to rent?

Unlike homes, rents have hardly risen at all in the past two years. Even in the second quarter, there was only a minimal increase in new contract rents, researchers found. Compared to the previous quarter, rents rose by 0.4 percent and by one percent year-on-year.

Rents for existing properties rose by 1.3 per cent year-on-year. “On a national average, the increase in rents is therefore manageable,” said Leutner.

Berlin tenants face paying back millions of euros

There could be major problems looming for Berlin tenants

The controversial rent freeze came into force on February 23rd this year which resulted in lower rents for many tenants. But experts say it could be overturned at any moment, leaving tenants liable to pay pack the difference.

The core issue being debated in courts is whether the state of Berlin is allowed to legislate in this area.


Housing in Berlin. Photo: DPA

If the Constitutional Court overturns the rent cap, many tenants in Berlin will face paying back huge amounts, according to F+B.

Due to the still unclear legal situation, there is currently a split rental market in the city. There are “shadow rents”, i.e. “the market rents”, which are usually higher than the price of the rent cap.

And on the other hand, there's the “official” rent costs corresponding to the rental price cap. The research company analysed the advertised rental apartments before and after the law came into force and “observed the existence of two rent indications in one and the same apartment advertisement”.

READ ALSO: Berlin's district court rules in favour of rental price cap

This is often associated with the remark that “the landlord reserves the right to retroactively claim the difference between the rent cover rent and the market rent”. The tenant has to agree to this in the rental contract.

SEE ALSO: The complete guide to how you can (still) live cheaply in Berlin

According to F+B the difference is clear to see: for 3,133 apartments offered between February 23rd 2020 and June 30th, F+B assumes a capped average rent of €7.05 per square meter

However, the market rent for the apartments is an average of €13.63 per square metre – a difference of €6.58 per square metre. With an average apartment size of 60 square metres, this would mean a total difference of €1.2 million per month which tenants would have to cough up.

“The longer the decision drags on, the greater the threatening additional claims,” says F+B managing director Leutner. At the same time, the massive difference in costs shows the advantages of the new rent freeze for tenants.

In any case, a quick clarification would be in the interest of all parties involved, said the research firm.

READ ALSO: 'We're setting a clear stop sign': Berlin passes five-year rent freeze law

Despite receiving the support of Berlin's state parliament, the law is opposed by Germany's federal government which argues that regulating housing costs is a federal rather than a state matter.

 

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